To many people the words “speaking” and “communicating” mean the same.  People assume that when we are speaking we are communicating.  The truth though is that we communicate in many different ways and speaking is only one.  We use all 5 senses to communicate and we are huge centres of communication with information coming in and out at a rapid pace.  While many of us are quite capable at communicating with others, it seems very few of us are any good at communicating with ourselves.  Put another way, we are not very good at comm-YOU-nication.

Just how is it that we speak to ourselves?  Do we speak with kindness?  Do we speak tenderly, lovingly or carefully?  My experience has shown that for the most part, we do not.

People often talk about the power of positive thought.  We must always have a positive attitude and to think positive.  I personally believe though that this approach is without any substance.  I say this because positive thinking has no effect if you consistently comm-YOU-nicate with yourself negatively.  To believe that simply thinking positive thoughts is enough would also be like saying that simply painting a car is enough to get rid of the rust.  The paint is a cover-up but the rust is still there.  Rust is actually a breakdown of metal and applying paint will not rebuild metal.  Therefore to simply think positive thoughts is not enough if there is a breakdown in the way you communicate with yourself.

If this makes sense to you, then you are able to move forward.  To do so we must now go deeper into the body.

We as a society have become thinkers.  In fact we are so busy “thinking” we are not “being” and “allowing”.  We are taught that to have more we often must learn more and think more.  Our thinking ultimately becomes insatiable.  It remains insatiable if it stays as knowledge in our head and is never applied to the rest of the body.  Comm-YOU-nication is about you – the entire and complete you.

We are not taught to speak to ourselves.  This skill is learned through social experiences.  Surprisingly something as important as communicating with ourselves is something that we basically leave to chance.  We entrust that our social circle and environment will be able to teach us this most fundamental and important skill.  It is then no surprise to see the self-help movement as a billion dollar industry and growing.  Society has taught us to look to others to help us find out who we are.

We must be conscious of just how we speak to ourselves.  When we are exercising isn’t it better to say to ourselves “Keep going” instead of “Don’t stop”?  Is it better to say “I can’t” or “I know there is a way and I will figure it out”?  The point being made is that if we better comm-YOU-nicate with ourselves we will likely see massive shifts in our results.  Ultimate success always begins, and ends with you. 

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